How can I get her to talk with me?

There is a girl that I am still in love with whom I have known for years. She liked me at one point but unfortunately things didn't work out. She does still want to be my friend however but that just isn't going to work for me. We haven't seen each other in about 5months but we still talk (well mostly text/type) and lately she has been wanting to hang out with me again. I am also certain that she still want to be just friends. Basically I just can't stand it and whenever I talk to her I get love sick and I want to tell her that I don't want to see/talk to her anymore and want to just forget about her. Just a few problems.


1: I still care about her and there is NO WAY I am going to tell her as bluntly as that


2: Again I care about her so just forgetting about her and completely ignoring her is out of the question


3: I still believe that you should always have a talk as serious as this in person


4: I don't want to go hang out with her and then just drop this on her like this





So I need to find someway to get her to talk with me (she also lives 20min. drive away) without coming off like a total creeper. Any suggestions?How can I get her to talk with me?
You contradict yourself. You say she is wanting to hang out, yet you don't know how to find away to talk to her?





Honestly, asking to get together with her won't make you sound like a creeper. At all. Let her know you have something important to share with her ahead of time, so it's not just a big drop on her.





I'm sorry about the sticky situation you are in though. Hope it works out okay.How can I get her to talk with me?
Time, baby, time. That's all I can tell you. You need to surround yourself with things non related to her that make you happy and make you feel good about yourself, so you can get on with your life. It is the healthiest way to get over this. Based on your grammar alone, I am going to assume you are relatively mature and an adult. And, so, I will speak to you as an adult and not sugar coat a thing: If she tells you she only wants a friendship, then that's all she wants. And if you can't handle that, then you MUST separate yourself from her, even virtually. You can't hurt yourself for her benefit because, realistically, who benefits from that?


Not you, not her.


Best of luck.
Before you hang out, You can just sit her down and tell her .





She'll be forced to talk, if you sit her down . And, if it goes well, then you can ask her out .That way, it does not seem like you randomly '; drop the bomb'; while getting to know her, better .





It might work, and It also might not . You never know unless you take a shot at it .





Good luck !

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