Maybe there is a cure to homosexuality? Was I never gay?

Ok. Let me just start off by saying that I don't have a problem with being gay at all. I have never denied myself about any part of me.





I thought for YEARS that I was gay ... I identified myself as a homosexual. I had never EVER been attracted to a woman ... I would only watch gay porn and get off on it. I would never want to have sex with a woman ... as I'm sure many of you wouldn't either. I was always supportive of the community and never ashamed of myself. I wouldn't 'pray the gay away' or anything, as many put it. However, I met a year ago a beautiful girl who treated me with kindness and respect like any other person. I can say that I DID fall in love with her ... I can't imagine my life without her. After a year together, we had sex and we had such strong feelings for each other that I was able to be as excited as if I were with a man. I even saw myself having a future with this girl. She is everything I have ever wanted and everything that my past relationships with men didn't offer.





I am 100% sure that all will say that I am really bisexual, but the thing is - I never wanted to have sex with a woman ever or had any desire for a relationship with one. Confusing, I know? Is this just a stage and will I sooner or later want a man?





Just wanted to get your thoughts on this ... and to those who are homosexuals but have never dated or had sex with a woman - how do you know for sure? Have you been with a woman before?Maybe there is a cure to homosexuality? Was I never gay?
I honestly think you may be straight. I'm sorry, but I have had sex with men and women and never liked having sex with a woman. Because I was born gay. I could be wrong about you tho sweetie.


Good LuckMaybe there is a cure to homosexuality? Was I never gay?
Were you ever gay ...





Not necessarily in its entirety. To be precise, as aforementioned you're bisexual. Even though you didn't exactly find a favorance to women sexually, you eventually did, didn't you? That, along with your sexual fantasies with men, and that's what comes up; bi.





I wouldn't worry it away though. You still have many years to experiment. Best to you two =)








Renka
i identify myself as a lesbian, because women are my preference, always have been, maybe always will be. i have been with guys before, and that's how i know i'm not really into it. however, i'm not completely closed to the idea of being with a man. i've been with a bunch of girls but i've only had about 3 serious relationships with girls, and one with a guy, and i could tell you right now, that i was sooo in love with him. i believe that it was because of who he was inside, not outside. he was such a good person and i liked everything about him. it's about the connection that you make emotionally, not physically. personality has a lot to do with it, i think. like you said, you found with her a relationship that offered you things that you didn't find with men. it's not about a person's sex, but about who they are and how the two of you are compatible. it's complicated and confusing, and one word (f.e gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender) should hardly be enough to describe us.
what can I say,life is really random.you think you can plan,well........





I just think your mind is just taking a vacation like our body does.





but vacation is not life.you will come back.
So...are you telling me you have missed all the stories--both on here and elsewhere--that are almost exactly like this, except it's people who have ';always'; been straight and then, bam, they like someone of their sex? Why couldn't the same thing happen to gays and lesbians? It can and it does.





I mean...I don't know how old you are, but a lot of younger people go through this because they are at the age of discovering sexuality in general...and more and more older people are going through this because of the increased visibility of homosexuality and the increased societal acceptance of living an openly homosexual lifestyle. Either way, sexuality is not as easy to understand or pin down as a lot of people seem to think it is, and it's not as stagnant as a lot of people seem to think it is. It's not as obvious to some the day they're born as it is to some other people. There are also not just four or five sexual orientations, i.e. the ones people talk about all the time. All of these things are really why you're confused. If you suddenly find yourself attracted to a woman, it doesn't mean that you're suddenly straight or that you never truly liked men. I've been through trying to pin everything down, and all I can tell you is that no one can tell you what's going to happen with your sexual orientation. It takes time and your going out and having experiences before you get answers, and even then...you're always having new experiences and meeting new people.





As of right now, I ';know'; because I don't want to date or have sex with men but I do want these things with women--simple as that. I get wigged out by men in pretty much every way, from the implication that d1ck would ';solve'; lesbians to their personalities. Can I say with certainty that won't change? No. No one really can, though I feel it won't change and so do a lot of other lesbians. Either way, when things like what you described with that woman come up, you just have to go with the flow to discover who you are.
Sounds you have always been bisexual, but you had lean on one direction and now you are towards the opposite direction. Anyway if in your future u feel desire for a man, then go for it.
Unfortunately, lots of gay men have sex with women as part of self-cures. Worked for you. Doesn't seem to work for them. Gays and lesbians have been told forever that all they need is to meet the right person of the opposite sex and all will be fine. Lesbians in particular are subject to the popular story that all they need is a good lay and off they'll go to heterosexuality. The ';cure'; is what here again? Heterosexual dating and better relationships with the opposite sex? Gee, I never tried that.





But to be honest though, ';I was able to be as excited as as if she were a man'; is not how heterosexuals experience sex. You had bad relationships with men, watched porn and make love to your woman as if she were a man because she gives you the emotional commitment that porn and the men you were having sex with didn't give you. Good for you. I get that. But where's the cure?