How can i get my wife to change her attitude?

We had always wanted a son, but we got 3 girls who are now 37, 35 and 26 years old. Our 26 year old got married right out of college, and has 2 kids. However both my 35 year old and 37 year old daughters haven't been married or had kids ever. Our 37 year old moved out of the state and is living with her boyfriend. My 35 year old daughter (I am EXTREMELY close to her) lives in an apartment 10 minutes away, and she doesn't even have a boyfriend or anything. We are Christian and she is definitely the most serious about it, and has very high standards, and wont date anybody who doesn't meet her standards. She gorgeous, in great shape, smart, and funny, but a bit uptight about her standards.





She's a teacher, and does a ton for the school she works at, and has accomplished a lot and I'm very proud of her, but my wife is kind of disappointed with both of our older daughters. She says she didn't get ANY sons, so since she has girls they should at least get married and give us a few grandkids. She seems atleast kind of happy that the 37 year old has a long term boyfriend, but is constantly bugging Jennifer and asking her is she will ever have kids.





Jennifer isnt very patient, and hates cleaning up after people, so I'm not even sure if she wants to have kids, and I'm fine with that as long as thats what she wants. She's a high school teacher to, so she deals with kids enough. On top of that she is in charge of dealing with senior stuff (organizing prom %26amp; graduation), chaperones school events, leads FCA in the mornings once a week, and coaches a sport. She's keeping herself busy, and I dont know why my wife cant just be proud of all she's accomplished, instead of disappointed that she hasnt given us grandkids. She got into one of the best colleges in America, always made extremely good grades, has her masters degree, is nationally board certified as a teacher, but my wife seems to look down on all of the good that Jennifer has done and just acts like she's failed her purpose of life since she hasnt had kids or gotten married. She has dated around every once in awhile, but never anything serious and hasnt been in an actual relationship, because thats just not what she's looking for right now. Why cant my wife just accept who she is, and be proud of all she's done? My wife seriously thinks that our daughters' only jobs are to give us son in laws and grankids! I've talked to my wife, but she still only complains.How can i get my wife to change her attitude?
You can't make anyone change their attitude. You can only control your own attitude and behavior. Perhaps your support of your daughter will rub off on your wife. Probably not, but at least it's good for your daughter and your relationship with her.How can i get my wife to change her attitude?
Your wife bought into all the Patriarchal Christian Church ';rules';. Sad that she can't celebrate your daughter for who she is- she seems wonderful.





This is exactly why I left the Catholic Church years ago- the separation and denigration of womens roles in society.





Maybe you need to consider a different type of Christian Church? One that celebrates people for who they are today rather than following some check list. Maybe that will help your wife let go of that mental list and love her daughter just as she is.
I doubt after all this time you're going to change your wife's way of thinking. You're rite tho, she should have an attitude of gratitude for ALL she has. She has daughters who are happy, lead good lives %26amp; she sure should be grateful for that. As far as the teacher goes, the children she teaches may in a way be fulfillment in her life as far as children go %26amp; she's dedicated to that. You wife has to learn to live %26amp; let live %26amp; be very grateful for the things she does have in her life. Tell her to be more thankful for the life she has %26amp; that her children have turned out well %26amp; are happy, look on the brighter side of life. There are so many who aren't anywhere near as fortunate as she is. Tell her you're tired of her complaining for no reason at all, instead be happy for ALL she has...the best to you...:)