I had a abortion and I can't get over it?

I'm 16 and in February i had a abortion, I know Altot of people are against it and so am I. But i'm too immature to be able to bring up a baby myself, it would not of been fair. Nevertheless i still can't stop thinking about it.


I'm not with the boy who got me pregnant, i found out after he had finished me. He always listened to me when i needed to talk to him and offered to come to the clinic with me, but never really said anything. He said he didn't know what to do or think.


Now, i know its good he's moving on. But it feels like he doesn't realize how much emotional pain i went though. At school he flirts with other girls in front of me, and jokes around with me as if i was never pregnant. I'm not over him yet, even though i want to be. I don't think i'll ever get over the fact we could of had a child together. I'm just sick of crying all the time. How do boys of this age react to this sort of thing?I had a abortion and I can't get over it?
Does your Mom know what happened?





There are support groups out there to help you overcome the emotions after an abortion. They are there to support you not judge you. Believe it or not you may find the best help from the christian groups that have a pregnancy support that don't offer abortions. Call one and tell them your situation and they will be able to either help you or put you in touch with someone who can. I'm so sorry for your loss.I had a abortion and I can't get over it?
am happy you learnt ur lesson pretty well, when you are young the best you can do is concerntrate in sku, just move on, u already killed a soul.
when your 16 its a lot harder to realize that a baby is a big deal. if you can have sex you and more than responsible to take care of what happens. i am def. anti abortion, i have a 2 yr old son and a lil girl on the way.. but sometimes babies are not for everyone. you really might want to think about what you did and the outcome and grow up a little bit, you cant have an abortion every time a boy gets u pregnant. your 16 too young to be having sex and having abortions.. live your life, enjoy yourself!
same thing happened to me with my ex, he didnt even show up to come with me u jus got to be strong GUYS SUCK there horney lil pricks from hell
Well, I don't have any advice about how to get over him. I think it just takes time. The hormone oxytocin is released during sex and actually helps you bond with the other person. Which, in marriage would be good. In other situations, it can be difficult to get over. As for the abortion, have you thought of talking with someone about it? There are lots of good people who will listen to you and who have gone through it themselves. Here are two places to get your started:


http://www.safehavenministries.com/Messa鈥?/a>


http://www.optionline.org/afterabortionh鈥?/a>





All the best. :)
No offense but if you know that you're immature and unable to support a baby then you shouldn't have unprotected sex.


Just get over with him and move on with your life. Maybe he's just using you and he's not someone that will love you. Don't waste your tear for someone like him. For now, you need to continues and worry about your education instead of boys. Boys are not worth your time.





Good Luck!!
Awe honey I'm so sorry to hear the emotional pain you are going through. I have never had an abortion myself *i'm against them* I think the best thing to do about it is have some alone time with yourself or just talk to an adult or someone you trust in and talk about your issues. Boy's that age are jerks they are just like some men these days.There are only a few good one's left it's a treasure if you find one. Don't worry you will get through this. God bless you and wish you a good emotional and physical recovery. In a time like this no one should be judged sadly we humans make mistakes.
how can you say your against abortion when you just had one?
baby girl listen...getting an abortion is hard and it's going to take time to get over it, but as long as you worry about him you're going to always be reminded of your child. You need to sit down and talk to him and let him know that he's not helping the situation and you can't be bothered with him anymore because he turned his back on you. If he acts like he don't care it's because he really don't. If he comes over to joke around with you turn the other way. And don't worry about him flirting with other girls, he's not your obligation anymore. I know it's easier for me to say this than for you to do it but if you don't stand up for yourself you're going to always be haunted by this. Good Luck!





Also I want to add that people are going to say things like you shouldn't have had sex and all that but it already happened and there's no taking it away. As long as you learned your lesson. Don't let those remarks get you down because those types of remarks are also going to haunt you
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Well, he never was pregnant, so he never had an emotional impact as you did. You felt it, you went through it. Sounds like he is very immature and is not a good match for you.


Please learn your lesson and use protection next time!


Abortion is hard to get over for many people. Be strong.
i would say u learned a lesson.... u r 16 and too young for anything like this...not to say u did a good job but yes u were sensible to abort the baby.... no point of bringing it in this world wen u r nt mentally ready and then the father of the baby is a moron.....





i would also say that after going through so much why r u even thinking abt him.... he is worthless... and u shld better have used some protection ..not a wise thing to go this way at this young age...life is not about sex and boyfriends ...Grow up and move on with ur life ...give urself some time to heal and try to focus on things that can shape ur life in a better way....





God have different ways to make one learn few things in life ... u just stay away from that guy... if ever u get a urge to be with him ..just make sure that u think that he is the one responsible for ur misery and he is just not worth....atleast u r guilty....





he was nt the one for u and God taught u it this way as u might not have learned by urself...He has more good things in store for u so rather than brooding over him try to be lok for the best that i yet to come...





It will be tough but u have a weapon of hurt taht will make u strong each day..Stop crying...


he will pay one day for this ..u dont have to wait and watch for that..but for sure he will in some form ..wat goes round comes round....