How do you let go of grudge when you're angry at someone who's still in your life?

I have a problem with my boyfriend's brother. Every since my boyfriend and I started dating, his brother has tried to push me out of my boyfriend's life. He tried setting my boyfriend up with other girls even after we were together. On my boyfriend and my first year anniversary he got me a beautiful necklace, his brother said he shouldn't be giving me the wrong idea and how ridiculous my boyfriend was being. He's said I try to pull my boyfriend away from the family. He has all these snide comments to say about my family and he always wants to be rude about my brother being gay. There's probably more, but I think you understand where I'm coming from.





His brother has caused strain in my boyfriend and his family's relationship (he defends me), and for the past two years, it's caused strains between my boyfriend and I. If he wasn't his brother, if he was anyone else, I wouldn't have any part of him in my life. I would call him an a** and move on with my life. I can't, though, and now I can't even bring myself to go over to see my boyfriend's family anymore because it just causes too much stress for me. I love my boyfriend so much but I almost feel like giving up and just moving on with my life. How do you just get over things?How do you let go of grudge when you're angry at someone who's still in your life?
Well most people aim for some sort of finality.





The proverbial full stop at the end of a long and insanely insulting sentence.How do you let go of grudge when you're angry at someone who's still in your life?
sometimes some people take a bit to get use to.. the brother will get use to you he just needs to know you are not going anywhere and i think ur bf should say that.
Dont let some asshole ruin ur relationship.............tell his a** off and if ur bf dont like tht u do then tell his *** off and dump him
You can't get over something that is still ongoing; I mean, he has not ceased with his hostilities, as far as I gather from your post. In my opinion, forgiving is nothing more than being too lazy to use the requisite energy for properly aimed anger. This relationship and decision is in your boyfriend's hands, not yours. He should be making you feel secure, and telling his brother where to shove his opinions. Since that seems to not be occuring, than perhaps, you should start broadening your dating horizons and distancing yourself from him. Maybe that will shake him back to realizing his feelings and what is really important to him. And, if not, then by that point, it will be a tad bit easier for you to let go officially, and find someone who will treat you as good as he gets. Good Luck %26amp; Be Brave - Breaking up is HARD to do! (Hope this helped!!)
Has he ever given y'all any kinda reason why he's so against y'all bein together in the first place? Or is he just mean for no reason at all? I'd just try to avoid him as much as possible cause if he don't got no reason for it, that means he's crazy. He's just a nutcase and hopefully his family knows it.
You've been together for two years, are you going to marry? Are you engaged?





Ultimately, this is a problem that's to be dealt with by your boyfriend. If you're not going to marry and he doesn't resolve this issue, I'd be inclined to move on.
Think about this carefully... does your bf put up with his brother, and make excuses for him? Have you actually pushed his family away and tried to avoid being with them?





Your bf needs to get some balz and tell the brother to back off. but it isn't going to change... and you are wasting your time with a guy who won't put his brother in his place and tell him off himself.





If you were to say ';its him or me';... I wouldn't suprised if he says goodbye and you would be out of luck.





Think for a minute about how it would feel to be married to your bf and this still be going on 25 years from now. Do you really want this?
You HAVE to learn to ignore him, because t's apparent that his attempts to run you out of your boyfriend's life are working...think about it...is it worth leaving someone who loves you because of someone who doesn't? Your boyfriend is the one who'll suffer...and you. Brother-man will have won.
Your problem is u think too much about a person who has nothing to do with your relationship.


Which in turn , makes your life worse.





You choose to have the brother on your mind, in discussions with your partner and other people. You make him an active participant in your everyday life by acknowledging him in your relationship.





Thats where your problem is and u have to change that.