How do I get a girlfriend? Is it ok to ask a random girl out?

Ok, I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend. I've asked on here before and the girl I asked about was taken. I have female friends but I'm afraid of ruining those relationships. So how does one get with a random girl? Like at a club for example. I don't know who to approach because it makes me feel like I'm judging by looks and I don't feel I'm in any position to do that. My problem is that I've never been to social, and my natural male instincts have been kept down by living with my mom and sister growing up. Can anyone help me?How do I get a girlfriend? Is it ok to ask a random girl out?
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if you are shy you should try match.com or eharmony.com....my dad used match and found people that wanted to go on dates with him in like a month! ...i know it might seem kind of weird ..or unusual, but it really does help a lot of people.
First of all are you zany in the brainy? You don't ask some random girl out that's just crazy. Ask one of your closer female friends that shows some interest in you then it will be easier to talk to them. How would you feel if some random girl asked you out? But ask someone your closer to instead of some random person
you must be your self , i would go clubbing,party,movies,mall just hang out girls will always come when you least aspect that's what always happen with me but i'm a girl and guys will ask me out and try to get with me when i wasn't looking for a relationship right now but i go party for the fun of it i met people it's fun!!
well dont straight up walk up to them and ask them out.. get their number take them out somewhere, someone social first, then after a few dates invite her to your place to watch a movie, im sure theyd love that
To a degree, it's okay to judge on looks, as long as you're being reasonable.





That said, it's also okay to go places and just talk to people, I'd practice talking before asking out. If she says yes, what will you do with her on the date?





Anyway. Based on info I got from a commercial tonight, you're more likely to meet someone these days online dating than in a club, bar, or social event, so maybe it's all moot.
ok the thing is try socialise in the first place and get your manly instincts, and no dude, you cant just have a girlfriend like that, if your going to be in a relationship be serious or else dont! try getting to know a few more female friends and once you have feelings for them, you sure can ask them out, and its just not looks, catch their personality dude, you seem to act like some brat, be a gentlemen.
My man got a girlfriend by going to school and not looking for one. In fact, he was quite intent on focusing on school and not dealing with any drama that might get in the way of his education. There, in his chemistry class, we met.





We were cordial acquaintances at first. I sat in his usual seat in the study hall after a while because I just can't stay in one place for very long, and he was upset but decided to come talk to me since he thought I was cute anyway. We started talking, and talked, and talked, and talked. We didn't get a whole lot of studying done...





But after that, we studied together all the time and found more and more excuses to get together and hang out. He had decided since that first day of finding me in his seat (that's what she said) that he really was interested in me and would see if he could pursue me. And I developed a crush on him that was forbidden to me at the time, but very real. He was patient and pursued me and loved me, and I finally caved.





He found a random girl, but he started by finding things in common (church, politics, family, etc.), befriending me, and not making any sudden moves until we were better friends. I would recommend that as a female myself, but I know not all females are the same...





Good luck!
Don't go out with a random girl for no real reason other than to just have a 'girlfriend'. She isn't a possession, which is why I am annoyed that fellow men so often say 'get a girlfriend'. If there is a girl you want to see if you can be with, get up the courage and ask her on a minor thing at first. For example if there is a friend that you want to try to date, hang out with her more, call her, or ask her to a light dinner or coffee or something along those lines. At the bar you can easily just ask if you can get her a drink, and if you know her outside of the bar you can always blame badly received moves on the alcohol. They'll understand that. If you are well received and encouraged by the girls, make a more open move (this is where dinners and movies come in. Though it can actually even be hanging out at the local mall, or just going for a walk). See if they take it. You'll learn to play the field soon enough.





GL
well, in a way you sort of are judging by looks. You need to casually ask to go on a date to get to know them then you can decide if you like them or not. and you really shouldn't pick randomly, i'm sort of a victim of a random choice, and i kinda hate it but at the same time i'm happy it happened. you'll make the girl feel like it was all chance and like she didn't even need to earn the date, it was just luck. Although everyone does judge by looks at first, it's nice to know if you like them personality wise and whatnot first. And I feel like I can say most girls like being approached at a club, otherwise they're busy or not worth your time, don't be nervous to approach some girls ;) (why else would they be at the club? yeah, party friends drinks fun, but guys fit into the equation as well!) And you must have some guy friends i'm sure, so get some of em and go to a place (club, wherever you feel like going) and meet some chics! sorry if i'm not much help, but i'm a 14 year old girl, so what do i know? ;D