How to tell a coworker going through infertility issues I'm pregnant?

My husband and I are finally sharing the great news of our first pregnancy, and we couldn't be more excited :) I'm worried however how I am going to share the joy at work. One of my coworkers has been trying to get pregnant for the past 2 years, and has yet to be successful. I know this must be a very painful situation for her, and the last few girls to get pregnant have just let her ';find out'; through everyone else. She became very upset and actually approached the most recent girl.





I want to avoid conflict and drama... but I also don't want her to feel like I'm leaving her out, or pitying her by not sharing with her as well. its a delicate situation and I'm not sure how to approach it. Any help would be appreciated :)How to tell a coworker going through infertility issues I'm pregnant?
I know what your going through! My former boss has been trying to conceive for 10 years! Since I have had 2 pregnancies and MANY others have been pregnant... countless! I feel so bad for her every time someone else gets pregnant. I let her hear it through to grapevine as I no longer worked there with either pregnancy.. but still visit often.. Every time i would see her I would tell her yes I was pregnant and then say things just wait til your pregnant its not all fun and games when your puking every morning or just wait til you get pregnant your gonna have 10 of the little suckers in there (she's using fertility drugs) to try to make light of the situation and make her feel better by saying someday she will get pregnant basically.. I know it's rough though every time someone else from work gets pregnant I instantly think of her! :-(How to tell a coworker going through infertility issues I'm pregnant?
First, I have to congratulate you on your concern for your co-worker. There should be more co-workers like you. Thank you for thinking of her and her feelings.





Privately, just tell her that you're pregnant. Tell her you wanted to tell her personally, rather than her hear it from someone else. Let the conversation go from there. She may want to talk further, she may not. If she does, be sure to tell her that you're sorry her journey has been so difficult and hope that she will get to experience pregnancy soon. Don't OVER do it or talk too much about it. Again, let her guide the conversation. Believe me, she'll feel good just at the thought that you cared enough to pull her aside privately and talk to her.





Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy :)
I agree with Rocker Wife,it must have been more difficult for her in the past to find out on the grapevine and that the other co-workers were avoiding the situation with her. I have been TTC since Jan 09 and 3 of my co-workers have gotten pregnant since then, it's hard but I am always happy for them there is no reason that they should feel guilty because they are pregnant and I am not yet. Having a baby is a wonderful thing and I'm sure she will appreciate you telling ger face to face.





Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy and I hope your co-worker gets her long awaited baby soon.





xxx
Whatever you do don't say your next to her. I hate it when someone finds out someone is pregnant and people turned to me and would say your next because they knew I had been trying for years. I think it is very sweet of you to care about her feelings. Just pull her aside and tell her your news and let her know your there for her if she needs to talk and leave it at that.
Whatever you do, do not listen to a word Cosmo said. What she wrote is a play by play of how to be an insensitive wench.





Rocker nailed it.
There is a great free EBook up for grabs on http://enjoy-pregnancy.com, its on infertility by michelle brown, a leading expert in the field... she really goes on about how to get through the infertility stages and the best method to conceive