I know... I'm asking a relationship question on Yahoo! Answers, regardless; I am desperate for any and all kinds of advice.
There is an international student in one of my classes who I've really fallen for. We actually have the same heritage, but English is not her native language. I did not notice her the way I do now initially, but I started talking to her because someone told me she was having problems understanding the assignments and such. So, because I was one of the few people around who could communicate with her in her native language and the fact that I hate to see people struggling, I offered to help her out.
Ever since then, I look forward to being with her during class, and I melt whenever I see her outside of it. To be realistic, I can acknowledge that there can't really be any deep connection between us at this point in time and that I am mostly infatuated, but that is what I want to change.
Now, some things you should know about. We only have two more classes left together. She won't be gone forever after this week, but we just won't have the same courses anymore I am pretty sure. I took two significant actions so far. One, I got her number by asking her, and two, I told her I wanted to get to know her better, to which she responded by telling me she has a boyfriend.
Of course, I was pretty devastated when I heard she was taken and felt a lot of regret because I imagined I made her uncomfortable by letting her know how I felt so abruptly, as opposed to becoming good friends first and then asking (something I usually do with girls I like, but wanted to avoid this time).
The next morning, after I told her I basically wanted to go out with her, she sent me a text saying that she would be sad if I were uncomfortable around her and to greet her happily next time I saw her.
I'm not sure what to do now. On one hand, it felt good to get my feelings out sooner rather than later, but I also feel like I've destroyed the option of asking her to hang out outside of class because, if she has strong feelings for her boyfriend, I would imagine she would not want to go down that path. What can I do now? I will see her tomorrow and greet her warmly as I always do, but I feel like my hands are tied behind my back. I need to take action but I've already taken it.
Thank you for your time.How to get to closer with an international student? Time is running out.?
.It's good that you help this young lady in a strange environment. However she has a boyfriend.So she wants you to accept and still be her friend
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